I think it’s been 5 weeks since I did the initial announcement that we’re having a baby and I wanted to give an update!
I heard from so many people that they didn’t show until 20ish weeks, and I never for one second thought it would take that long for me. I do know a couple of people who showed around 10-12 weeks (yes, with their first babies), but mine popped out right at 14.5 weeks and then within a span of 2 days it went from my husband thinking people still wouldn’t think I was pregnant to “Oh, yeah that’s a pregnant belly.” It makes me happy. It isn’t big, but its there. Below is 6 weeks to 15.
excuse the shitty photo.
For my entire first trimester, everyone kept telling me how I’d feel so much better once the second trimester came, and I honestly didn’t believe anyone because so many of the people I know were sick for either 5, 6, 7 or 9 months. So I didn’t have much faith. And I was right. At week 12 I got a prescription for morning sickness because it got so bad that I was no longer functioning and didn’t know what to do with myself. While it isn’t a magic cure, it does take away about 90-95% of the nausea most days. I’m still taking it because anytime I don’t (even a couple of days ago), the following day I am a train wreck of nausea. I stop functioning and I spend my entire day and night on the verge of puking an eating becomes forced rather than enjoyable. SO, I plan to continue taking the prescription for the next few weeks and hope that it has let up by the time I run out of pills.
I was also led to believe that would go away. It has not. It HAS let up a lot, though. I’d say 80% of the time, I don’t feel like I want to sleep all day anymore. I still struggle to wake up in the morning, and my mornings are highly unproductive because I just cannot get my body going. For the afternoon/early evenings I tend to have much higher energy levels. I’d say 1/2 the days I still wind up needing an hour or so nap somewhere in the middle of the day.
Those did appear bang on the start of the second trimester (which I’m confused about the actual start date because I’ve been given conflicting info on whether it’s 13 or 14 weeks. So I go with 13 because that’s when tri 2 symptoms started and fatigue lessened). Probably 80% of the days I have a raging headache from waking until noon. Some days no headaches, some days it goes away faster.
I really have to intentionally slow myself down when I get up from laying or from sitting a lot of the time. I’m used to being able to move quickly, and that isn’t an option anymore because I get dizzy. So I’m careful and then it doesn’t happen. It goes away very quickly when it does, so it’s the least annoying thing to be added!
Not really full on bleeds, just some blood here and there. Totally normal apparently. Yay.
At 13.5 weeks, I went to bed and woke up with that line down my belly. It shocked me when I got out of the shower, but then just made me smile.
Again. The same night I went to bed and woke up the same morning with the linea nigra, I also woke up with a lot bigger boobs and very large visible veins. They got bigger again overnight a week later. Kind of hoping that slows down soon so that I can actually buy a bra that will continue to fit, but I’m not expecting that to actually happen. So we’ll see.
ROUND LIGAMENT PAIN
That’s fun. Really inconsistent. Seems to coincide with belly growth. Makes sense. Also what I refer to as lightning crotch when I walk a lot…. which is unfortunate since I walk for roughly 1-1 1/2 hours most days. So it’s great.
STRONGER LONGER NAILS AND HAIR
So, my nails just don’t want to break. I’ve never had long nails because I chew them and they never had the chance to grow. These nails seem to be resilient to chewing now.. because I still chew them and they don’t break. So I started painting them and just lettin’ them be long. Also my hair is thicker and grows faster, so that’s sweet. There’s some positives.
All aversions went away once the pills kicked in. YAY! I also got hungrier… likely because I could finally eat enough and WANTED to eat enough. There’s still some days where I don’t eat enough, but I expect that to get better the further I get. Last night I did wake up with an empty stomach at 1am and could not get back to sleep, so I came downstairs for cottage cheese and crackers and that made me able to sleep again. That hasn’t happened since like week 6.
What I’ve finally gotten used to is my desire for very healthy foods and less of a desire for sweets/less nutritionally dense foods. My body just desperately craves tons of produce (all kids. fruits, veggies/ giant daily salads), protein in the form of salmon, tofu and beef (STEAK) most of the time, beans, sweet and regular potatoes, dairy, fats like olive oil, avocado, nuts, etc. My husband and I are eating healthier than we probably ever have in our lives, and it’s been great. Grains seem to be hit or miss. I like… forget to eat them a lot of the time so I have to actively think ‘add bread to this, or add rice, or some granola or maybe eat a muffin’ or something like that because I just don’t think of them as much. I still have a place in my heart for fries, shortbread cookies, chocolate (I can eat that again!) and ice cream (also back on the menu), I just tend to consume them in much smaller amounts or just not frequently. I don’t feel like this is a good or bad thing, it’s just what my body is telling me so I roll with it. I’m happy because I’m pleased to be giving my baby and my body great nutrition, but I’d also have zero opinion if all my body wanted was carbs and ice cream. The body is smart, I just go with it.
Most days I’m eating 3 meals and 2-4 snacks. It depends how big my meals are and how hungry I am. Some days I’m just not very hungry and I eat what I can, and other days I’m ravenous. I’m sure it all balances out in the end.
I also practically never take dinner photos, except that butter chicken above and the salmon. Really, dinners consist of vegetables/potatoes/protein/whatever. It’s lighter out later now so maybe I’ll get a few, we’ll see. Snacks are really generally just fruit with cheese or nuts or something with fat/protein. It’s pretty basic. Now that it’s bbq season we’ve been having burgers a fair bit and fish tacos! (our fave).
Still just really enjoying walking and stretching and basic life movement. We swam a decent amount in Florida and that was so nice, but it isn’t pool weather here yet… so I hope to revisit that this June. I’m sure at some point I’ll feel like working out again, but until then, I walk a lot.
I had to get a pair of maternity shorts while we were away because, while my regular shorts still fit, doing them up was a little uncomfortable and I didn’t have my belly bands with me. The shorts are extremely comfortable and should fit for the whole summer. I also got a couple of tanks because they were so stretchy and soft and cheap. That’s pretty much it. All of my regular clothes still fit including my jeans. Not sure when that will change.
I feel like a lot of this post was negative… because really a lot of pregnancy experiences (for me) are hard/negative.. but I do want to say that it’s worth it and something I’m still grateful to get to experience because I know there are so many women who desperately want to and can’t. Pregnancy is hard. SO HARD. But I think it’s harder to want to be pregnant and have difficulty/not get to do it. My heart goes out to you and I’m thinking of you, and I take none of this for granted. I don’t know that anything ever worth it comes easily, so while a lot of it sucks, I’m still so grateful.