It’s lazy to blame society for all of our cultural problems. It’s lazy to blame our struggles on society because it lets us label ourselves as the victim and it gives us a really poor excuse to say that there isn’t much we can do about it, it’s the way society is.
But the fact is, we are society. We, as a collective whole, are society. So we, as a collective whole, are to blame for the shit we put ourselves through and we, as a collective whole are responsible for righting our wrongs.
There is no one individual to blame, and there is no one individual that’s going to set it right for all of us. We decided what beauty standards were, and we decide to adhere to them. We decided that a very tiny percentage of the population was everything we should be, and that we should all strive to be it at all costs, and those of us that are it, should be working to stay that way. The only way that’s going to change is if we, as a collective whole, decide to stop, to end the useless, demoralizing rat race.
Every time you adjust your clothing to hide fat rolls or cellulite, you contribute to diet culture and the oppression of people in larger bodies.
Every time you call yourself fat as a way to express dissatisfaction with yourself/your body, you are supporting and contributing to fat shaming.
Every time you go on a diet, you are re-affirming that bodies should be smaller than they are genetically designed to be, and that it isn’t okay to be in different sized bodies AND that appearance even matters (it does not).
Every time you go on a diet and say it’s for health reasons, you are contributing to the false idea that health and weight are correlated. Spoiler: they’re not. You’re also giving food more credit than it deserves when it comes to your health.
Every time you apologize for not having make up on (I see it ALL. THE. TIME. on instagram from women) you reinforce that you aren’t okay just as you are… and you are. You are perfectly okay just as you are.
We have to decide to stop idolizing one small range of expressions of dna, and understand and accept that there are countless expressions of our genes, and there isn’t a single one that is better or more worthy than another. We’re all worthy because we are all human. We have to decide, together, to stop the pain and suffering.
We do that by ending fat shaming. By never using the word fat in a negative way ever again.
We do that by ending dieting. By not over exercising. By not trying to manipulate our bodies in to something they weren’t meant to be, and don’t need to be. By not covering up parts of ourselves that we think aren’t attractive. By not making judgments on someone for the size and shape of their bodies, for their color of skin or by what gender they associate with or sexual orientation.
We do that by giving equal rights to every single human being, regardless of how their dna expresses itself. We do that by putting no value on appearance at all, by recognizing that we’re all humans and our value, worth and contributions to the world have absolutely nothing to do with our appearance or sexual orientation. Nothing.
In the words of Caroline Dooner, Fuck It.
Disclaimer: I am not a therapist or medical professional. This is not meant to diagnose, treat or cure any illnesses and should not be seen as a substitute for professional help. I share my experiences here in hopes of helping others, but I absolutely encourage you to seek professional help for your struggles.